Sex toys can be intimidating. Men can be strange creatures. They tend to feel the need to protect their masculinity with the ferocity of a lion during feeding time at the zoo. Attacks against said masculinity are considered by their keeper to be as serious as a national security threat. So, if you suggest bringing a sex toy along to play time, you may actually find that he's unenthusiastic about the idea. After all, why should you need to add tools to the mix if he's doing a good enough job?
Here are some great reasons you can share with your partner to politely let him know that using sex toys together isn't a dig at his masculinity or inadequacy to get the job done. Instead, they're tools for making great sex even better!
Not all women can climax every time they have sex. Some women require some intense clitoral stimulation to get there, so introducing a sex soy such as a clitoral stimulator can help to even the playing field.
Not to mention sex toys can also help to prolong your play time together. A sex toy can make the foreplay much more satisfying, and it can also keep you in the mood for round two - providing you're wanting seconds, that is. When a man climaxes he has a longer recovery time to be ready to go again than a woman does. Sure, you can both just lie there, twiddling your thumbs while his biology re-boots, or he can keep you in the mood with gentle vibrations.
Wanting to introduce sex toys to the bedroom might make him think that he's not satisfying you in bed - but this isn't true! The fact of the matter is that sex can become very vanilla, and sex toys are a great way to spice things up between the sheets.
Chances are, if you're in an open and loving relationship that has been going strong for a while, you'll have tried a myriad of positions and settled into a comfortable routine. Using couple's sex toys, such as a couple's vibrator, massagers or anal toys, can make good sex even better and help to recreate that initial excitement.
Clitorises can be stubborn little things. Some of them take a little more work than others to get to where they need to go. Strong vibration is a great tool for clitoral coercion, and using a sex toy created specifically to hit all the right spots can be a powerful tool during sex. It will help you to reach climax faster, and it will make his job a little bit easier.
If you're playing with a sex toy, he should be taking notes! Observing your sex toy use is a great way for him to pick up some tricks. It'll give him some guidance for speed and consistency, as well as show him where your sweet spots are. At the end of the day, a happy sex life is an explorative one. Sexual compatibility with your partner should mean you're both open to new ideas. Limiting yourself in the bedroom means you're missing out on a world of possibilities!
If your man flinches at the suggestion of including sex toys in the bedroom, it's about time you show him how great they can be for both of you. Brining some new adult toys into the play pen will not only turn good sex into great sex, but it will help to keep things fresh, adventurous and exciting!
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