Rimming also known as analingus is the act of using your mouth, lips and tongue to pleasurably stimulate the outside rim of your partner's anus. You may not know this but the anus is full of many sensitive nerve-endings, and can be incredibly pleasurable when stimulated for both men and women.
Rimming has grown in popularity amongst couples due to more people wanting to engage in sexual behavior that is a little taboo. Generally, couples enjoying rimming during foreplay, or as an erotic twist to oral sex. Here are 6 top tips to help you perform the perfect rim job...
It goes without saying that you want someone's bootyhole to be as clean as a whistle before you go putting your mouth anywhere near it. It is vital that the receiver thoroughly washes themselves down there before any rimming takes place. Being squeaky clean will reduce the risk of germs spreading from the bum to the tongue, it also limits unpleasant smells and tastes for the giver and helps the receiver relax.
If you want a more intensive clean then using unscented soap, use an anal douche as it will ensure you're clean for not only rimming but for any anal play which may take place afterwards. The other option is using an oral dam, which works as a thin shield between your mouth and the anus to protect yourself from any unwanted germs - and don't worry guys it is thin enough to not disrupt any sensations and they taste great too!
You may not think you have a lot of hair down there but trust me you may be surprised! If you usually like to tame or get rid of body hair, don't forget about this sweet treat spot as it can be easy to do! If you are dating a hairy man I would defiantly make sure he does some pre-rimming manscaping as you defiantly do not want a mouthful of posterior pubes!
The anus can be hard to reach and at first it may feel uncomfortable shaving around that usually isolated area but with a little perseverance it will be totally worth it.
After everything has been rinsed and razored and you're ready to get cracking on licking some ass, make sure the recipient is in a position that gives you easy access to their anus while still remaining comfortable for them! Common favourite positions include a 69, face sitting, kneeling over, or lying on your front with a pillow under your hips, but really it's up to whatever feels best for you!
Remember the key with rimming is that you are not playing arse darts, it's more about working around the hole and down the crack. Your tongue is one of the strongest muscles in your body so you should defiantly be using that to your advantage!
Start by licking, kissing, stroking and nibbling the little ridges around the anus in circular motions before beginning to lap at the hole itself. Once you do move onto the hole, lightly lick there with the tip of your tongue which will help build up intensity as you slowly move onto sucking and full blown licking.
If you do want to penetrate your lovers bum with your tongue, you only need to push in very slightly as there aren't as many nerves actually inside the rectum so it's best to stick close to the surface.
Teaming a rim job with a vibrator or flavoured lubricant provides an incredible addition to your partner's pleasure and your own! With so much intense stimulation going on, using toys during rimming can create amazing mind-blowing blended orgasms.
Try using a small bullet vibrator to tease the area around the anus to get the nerve endings tingling (bullet vibrators should only ever be used externally, only insert toys into the anus that have a wide base). Toys are great for easing your lover up if they are feeling nervous or stimulating the area to make it that much more pleasurable for when it's your turn!
For the giver, flavoured lubricants/gels are a great addition to your rimming experience. Not only does it help create an extra slippery, slidey slickness for your tongue to glide over the skin but it also helps to mask any inevitable scents and tastes. Lubricant is also great if you do decide to penetrate the anus with your tongue, fingers or sex toy.