I'm going to assume it was a man who wrote to us to ask if it's gay to enjoy dildos.
We were asked the question: How come I enjoy dildos so much, I'm not gay at all?
Put simply - because it feels really good! And enjoying anal play doesn't say anything about your sexuality. Sexuality is complex and isn't related only or at all to sexual activity. Some gay men don't like anal play. Some straight men love it.
First, let's talk about why you like it. It's all about the P-spot. Never heard of it? Let me tell you all about it. The p-spot is an erogenous zone that is located between the bladder and the rectum in men. Like the g-spot in women, the p-spot is full of nerve endings that are ready to be stimulated! Generally about two knuckles into your anus is the p-spot. Soft, a bit squishy. It's about the size of a 5c piece.
Use your finger to find it. The point of using a finger is to familiarise yourself with what feels good so that once practicing with an anal toy, you can incorporate similar movements. Basically what you want to do is provide pressure to different parts of your prostate gland to see what feels comfortable. If you suddenly feel encouraged to urinate, or feel sensations that feel similar to the beginning of an orgasm, you're touching your prostate. Don't worry that feeling is completely normal.
You can achieve orgasm through stimulating the prostate with your fingers, a penis, or sex toys. But it's a totally different orgasm. P-spot orgasms allows you to reach orgasm without touching your penis.
So no wonder you like it!
Backdoor toys can bring us to the most pleasurable and orgasmic moments within our sex lives. It's not only incredibly satisfying but also has plenty of health benefits. Prostate massage can reduce the chance of prostate cancer, prostatitis, genital pain and erectile dysfunction. Further, it can enhance erectile function, and betters seminal fluid circulation.
P-spot anal toys differ by the design, material and their accompanying features. You should use these instead of dildos as they're designed for anal play.
If you're keen to give it a go - here are some toys you could try.
If you've never tried anal play, the Beginner's Fantasy Kit is just what you need to explore the amazing world of anal stimulation.
The Beginner's Fantasy Kit features five unique pieces perfect for your first-time anal encounter. Try the beaded probe for gradual anal stimulation, the Classix Prostate Stimulator to hit just the right spot, or the suction-cup plug for a wall banging good time!
If you've never tried anal play, the Two-Finger Fantasy Plug is just what you need to explore the amazing world of anal stimulation.
The Two-Finger Fantasy Plug has a tapered tip for easy entry before gradually expanding to 1.5". The flexible shaft bends with your body's contours to hit just the right spot, while the sturdy rings at the base offer safe and easy handling.
Try filling yourself with the Two-Finger Fantasy Plug during other sexual stimulation, and you'll climax harder than ever before! Our ultra-hygienic Elite Silicone is phthalate-free, hypoallergenic, and can be worn all day for long-lasting fun.
When you're looking to take your anal play to the next level, the Anal Fantasy Elite Collection is the premier choice for high-end anal arousal and prostate play. Made from our ultra-hygienic Elite Silicone™, the Elite Collection is body-safe, phthalate-free, latex-free and made to play hard. Using the latest in USB rechargeable technology, the Elite Collection plugs and probes are ergonomically designed for maximum comfort and guaranteed satisfaction.
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